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Single vs. Married – Part 1

[There is this not too small an argument about whether it’s better to be single or married. Let’s have both sides present their case and see their view. It so happens that all cases presented were received via email. Let’s start from the single camp, with their “inspiring” prayer. It was posted in Bahasa with English mixed-in, so I just re-post it with minimal changes. My colleague, Celly, was the one responsible for forwarding this “prayer”.]

Mari berdoa bersama,

Thank God, untuk...
Kemerdekaan menjalani hidup,
Keleluasaan mengejar karier,
Waktu melimpah untuk hang-out,
Masa yang panjang untuk bersenang-senang,
Tidur yang nyenyak tanpa dengkuran,
Kemewahan untuk menikmati kesendirian,
dan banyak lagi yang terlalu panjang untuk kami sebut semua dalam doa kami.

Beri kami kesabaran untuk...
Tidak kurang ajar menghadapi tuntutan orang tua,
Selalu tersenyum bila ditanya mengapa keenakan melajang,
Tidak tertawa atas curhat tentang urusan rumah tangga.

Beri kami kekuatan untuk...
Tidak melepas masa lajang karena everybody does,
Tidak melepas masa lajang karena takut stigma perawan/perjaka tua,
Tidak melepas masa lajang karena dianggap menghalangi jalan adik kami,
Tidak melepas masa lajang karena terlanjur berbadan dua,
Tidak melepas masa lajang untuk bayar utang.

Dear God,
Biarkan kami menikmati kesendirian kami,
Dan merelakannya pergi pada waktunya,
Atau bila kau anggap kami terlalu egois bersenang-senang sendiri,
Tolong berikan kami teman hidup terbaik untuk berbagi kesenangan,
Secepatnya juga boleh kalau Engkau berkenan,
The good one, of course, if You don't mind...

Amien.

[The message I got from this prayer is to cherish your life of being single. Live it fully and savor the moment. And most importantly, DO NOT let it go for the WRONG REASONS. Far too many have relented to peer pressure only to regret it later in life. Not everyone is meant for marriage, despite what the religion says otherwise. God has His plan. Ask Him and seek it out. You live only once. Find your purpose.]

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